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How to use Artificial Intelligence (A.I.) to Help Your Coaching Clients
Our highest priority in Life and Relationship Coaching is to empower our clients to be creative and resourceful in accomplishing their goals, which is a big reason why we avoid giving advice and suggestions. We like to think that our client has all the answers inside them, to which most clients would disagree if you […]
The #1 Secret to Becoming a Fantastic Coach
Here at Relationship Coaching Institute we provide the training, mentoring and support you need to become a successful and skilled coach, but how do you become a fantastic coach? Becoming a fantastic coach, as with most skills and professions, typically follows these Four Stages of Competence: Stage 1: Unconscious Incompetence The trainee does not understand […]
Four Alternatives to Compromise in a Relationship
Compromise should be a last resort for resolving differences in a relationship and here’s why: When you “compromise” you are giving up some of what you want/need to meet in the middle somewhere with your partner. If you do this often enough you will find yourself sacrificing too much to make the relationship work and […]
Dealing with Client Resistance in Life and Relationship Coaching
A professional coach doesn’t psychoanalyze their client and interpret their behavior as “resistant,” simple as that. The nuance here is that “resistance” happens, is more commonly caused inadvertently by the coach, and doesn’t always mean the client has a problem that needs fixing. Just as “the customer is always right” you can assume that your […]
How to Refer for Therapy as a Professional Coach
In coaching we like to say “When in doubt, refer it out,” but how? A trainee of Relationship Coaching Institute with a client exhibiting symptoms of severe postpartum depression asked “How do you handle referrals when your client lives in another state and you don’t have any connections in their area?” and stimulated the following […]
FAQ: How do we help a couple struggling with ED, low sexual desire, sexual trauma, etc.?
Co-creating a fulfilling sexual relationship incorporating physical and emotional limitations is absolutely possible but more easily accomplished in an Advanced Partnership. A survivor of sexual abuse can move beyond their past experiences and trauma to have a fulfilling sexual relationship within an Advanced Partnership of love, connection, trust, and building up positive emotional and physical […]
Coaching Tip: Convert Statements into Coaching Questions
The most common “uncoach-like” behavior displayed by trainees early in their coach training is to provide a suggestion or POV in response to their client’s situation. Why? I understand that you really want to help and empathize with the impulse to simply blurt out what you think your client needs to do or understand, but […]
FAQ: Why do I need relationship coach training?
People who think they already know a lot about dating and relationships ask “Why do I need relationship coach training?” The short answer is that “Coaching” is a serious profession. The problem is that “coaching” is a common word in the English language that can mean many things and few outside of the coaching profession […]
FAQ: Should I start coaching a couple before my relationship coach training?
“A friend who knows I’m training to be a Relationship Coach referred a couple to me. Should I consider working with them before I start my training for coaching couples?” I wouldn’t, but if there are no red flags (consult with your mentor before accepting them) and you really WANT to work with this couple […]
Top Five Tips for Facilitating Dialogue in Relationship Coaching
1. Be mindful that you are coaching their RELATIONSHIP which is the space between them, and you can’t do so if each partner focuses on YOU. The easiest and most important strategy for facilitating dialogue is, whenever possible, to direct their attention AND responses to EACH OTHER and not to you. Be sure to discuss […]